A personal safety plan helps you protect yourself and your children

A plan will help you think about how you can increase your safety either within the relationship, or if you decide to leave.

In an emergency always call the police on 999

For non-emergencies contact the police on 101.

Here are some things that you can consider which might help your safety:

  • Teach your children to call 999 in an emergency and tell them what they would need to say (for example, their full name, address, and telephone number).
  • Are there neighbours you can trust?  Could you go there in an emergency? If so could you tell them what is happening?  You could ask them to call the police if they hear sounds of a violent attack.
  • Rehearse an escape plan so in an emergency you and your children can leave safely.
  • Pack an emergency bag for yourself and your children and hide it somewhere safe. This could be at a friends or neighbours house (try to avoid mutual friends or family).

Keep a phone charged with essential numbers If you think your partner is about to assault you, try to go to a low risk area in your home. This would be an area that leads to a way out of the home. Try and avoid the kitchen or garage where there is likely to be knives and weapons. Try to avoid rooms where you may be trapped for example the bathroom which is an enclosed space, or any other enclosed places within the home.

You can't stop your partner's violence and abuse - only they can do that. There are things you can do to increase your own and your children's safety. You’re probably already doing some things to protect yourself and your children – for example, there may be a pattern to the violence which may enable you to plan ahead to increase your safety.

If you are planning to leave you may want to take the following with you:

  • Some form of identification
  • Proof of National Insurance number
  • Essential legal documents such as: benefit paperwork, medical cards, marriage and birth certificates, passports, visa’s and work permits, injunctions or court orders, driving licence and divorce papers
  • Money, bank cards, cheque books
  • Emergency phone numbers
  • Address book
  • Spare house keys
  • Clothing for yourself and your children
  • Any medication for yourself and your children
  • Children's favourite possessions

If you are able to do so, leave essential items with a trusted friend. Always try to leave when your partner is not around.